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The Reason, The Revolution

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It’s been a month since I put up this website. Just like the rest of you, I have been juggling the responsibilities of work, life, family, and relationship. The habit of writing has helped me a lot. So, I thought I could publish the same in form of blogs. But after writing about a dozen articles, sitting unpublished in my laptop, I realized how difficult it is to give a general advice through an article in comparison to actually guiding a friend right in front of you. I even shared them with my close friends and the response was something like this, “why would anyone read ‘your’ article?” It’s a fair question. Why would someone listen to me when I talk about career or relationships, even if I have already navigated through them successfully? Why would anyone trust me, especially when I am doing it all for free? This made me question myself. What the hell am I even trying to achieve with all this? I started without a plan just because my knowledge helped a few people in the past. Is...
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The Ascent from Promotion to Resignation

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I was recently promoted. 37 notifications on Slack (a messaging app). All with the same message, “Congratulations!” except for one, my boss. He said, “Congratulations Khavi! …now you can share the news with your family and friends.” I replied with a thanks followed by a smiley. During the rest of the day, work, colleagues, and lunch with them, all of it was same as the day before. Nothing felt different. It was the first promotion of my life and I couldn’t tell why it felt so empty. Was it because I was promised but denied the promotion last year since office policy had suddenly changed (as per my boss only)? Or, was it because a dozen other colleagues were also promoted? Days went by and I found the one thing that had visibly changed in my life. It was the number of expectations my boss had in terms of work delivered. But that didn’t feel like a cause for celebration. Let me give you a little behind-the-scenes tour. There was a policy to evaluate performance of employees every 6 month...
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The Irony of Happy Birthday

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“Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday to dear …” Your birthday is supposed to be happy. You were born, people celebrate you, so naturally you should feel joy. Shouldn’t you? If not, then what is this “happy” in the “happy birthday” song? Let’s go to the very beginning to find the answer. Hours before your birth, your mother was in pain. Extreme pain. The closer your birthday came, the worse it got. Was she “happy” during all this? When you were born, you were crying. They surely weren’t tears of joy. You were crying due to fear and confusion. For years, you kept crying: at school, losing teeth, losing toys, failing to meet expectations, navigating puberty, heartbreak, illness, the weight of fitting in, and what not. Yet we call it a “happy birthday.” Fast forward a few more years and there is another first cry! Now you are the parent holding a baby in your hands. And she keeps crying just like you did when you were born. And you can’t pr...
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